Serena Williams and Secret Deodorant Team to Promote Gender Equality

Serena Williams is continuing her mission of women’s equality with a new job title.
The tennis champ is Secret Deodorant’s newest brand ambassador, teaming with the P&G-owned brand to promote gender equality in sports.
“[Secret] has a history of supporting women’s issues and fighting for women’s equality,” Williams said in an interview with WWD, ahead of the announcement on Tuesday. “That’s what I do. I fight for equality and I’m vocal about gender bias. It only makes sense for me to join in this charge with Secret.”
Together, Secret and Williams will be conducting a study on gender inequality in sports to see how gender bias plays out for athletes ranging from high school players to professional sports leagues. The brand will then donate $ 1 million to organizations that address these issues.
The partnership is a natural one for Williams, who has routinely been outspoken on gender-inequality issues throughout her career. Williams most recently spoke on her activism at a press conference on July 13 after she competed in Wimbledon, stating: “The day I stop fighting for equality and for people that look like you and me will be the day I’m in my grave.”
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Tresemmé Teams With Designers to Tackle Fashion’s Gender Leadership Gap

Tresemmé, the longtime official hair sponsor of New York Fashion Week, is taking steps to make its relationship with the shows a more meaningful one.
The Unilever-owned, mass market hair brand has teamed with fashion designers and Vital Voices Global Partnership to launch its #WomenLeadTheWay pledge, a commitment to help advance women in the fashion industry into leadership positions. Co-signed by designers and fashion labels such as Rebecca Minkoff, Jason Wu, Cushnie, Jonathan Simkhai and Studio One Eighty Nine, the announcement will be made public in a full-page ad in The New York Times on Sept. 5, the first official day of NYFW, WWD has learned.
The brand hopes to set an example by establishing and funding its own formal mentorship program within Unilever.
“As the official hair-care sponsor of New York Fashion Week for the past two decades, we want to use this platform as a way to make a change in the fashion and beauty industries,” said Jessica Grigoriou, brand engagement director for Tresemmé, noting the brand “prioritizes” partnering with hairstylists, designers and influencers “who are committed to supporting women on and off the runways” during fashion week.”
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Gender Signs

Over the years, my husband and I have usually managed to decode the cute but confusing gender signs sometimes put on restaurant restroom doors (Buoys
and Gulls, Laddies and Lassies, etc.), but every so often we get stumped.

Recently my husband wandered off in search of the men’s room and found himself confronted by two marked doors. One was labeled “Bronco,” and the other
was designated “Cactus.”

Completely baffled, he stopped a restaurant employee passing by. “Excuse me. I need to use the restroom,” he said. Gesturing toward the doors, he
asked, “Which one should I use?”

“Actually, we would prefer you to go there,” the employee said, pointing to a door down the hall marked MEN. Bronco and Cactus are private dining
rooms.”

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Global Gender War

Note: My Clown Genius Post (about Trump) is nominated for a Best Writing of 2015 award called the Golden Giraffes. You can vote for it here. (Do a page search to find my name.) 

I don’t care about awards of this type, but this is an opportunity to shine some light on the Moist Robot hypothesis and the Master Persuader concepts if you think the ideas are worthy.

Now back to business…

I wonder if the discussion of so-called radical Islam is disguising the fact that male-dominated societies are at war with female-dominated countries. Correct me if I’m wrong, but Islam doesn’t look so dangerous in countries where women can vote. 

Consider the United States.

When I go to dinner, I expect the server to take my date’s order first. I expect the server to deliver her meal first. I expect to pay the check. I expect to be the designated driver, or at least manage the transportation for the evening. And on the way out, I will hold the door for her, then open the door to the car.

When we get home, access to sex is strictly controlled by the woman. If the woman has additional preferences in terms of temperature, beverages, and whatnot, the man generally complies. If I fall in love and want to propose, I am expected to do so on my knees, to set the tone for the rest of the marriage.

Personally, I don’t go on dates. So the story above is just an example. But if I go to dinner with a female business associate, the story usually plays out the same way. The difference is that she might pick up the check if we are talking business, and the night ends earlier.

I won’t reopen the discussion of gender pay imbalance in this post. I’ll just summarize by saying that well-informed feminists don’t see much gender discrimination in the data. So if you think women in the United States are paid less for the same work, please take it up with well-informed feminists. I’m just reporting what they say.

Women have made an issue of the fact that men talk over women in meetings. In my experience, that’s true. But for full context, I interrupt anyone who talks too long without adding enough value. If most of my victims turn out to be women, I am still assumed to be the problem in this situation, not the talkers. The alternative interpretation of the situation – that women are more verbal than men – is never discussed as a contributing factor to interruptions. Can you imagine a situation where – on average – the people who talk the most do NOT get interrupted the most? I don’t know if the amount of talking each person does is related to the amount of interrupting they experience, or if there is a gender difference to it, but it seems like a reasonable hypothesis. My point is that men are assumed guilty in this country. We don’t even explore their alibis. (And watch the reaction to even bringing up the topic.)

Now compare our matriarchy (that we pretend is a patriarchy) with the situation in DAESH-held territory. That’s what a male-dominated society looks like. It isn’t pretty. The top-ranked men have multiple wives and the low-ranked men either have no access to women, or they have sex with captured slaves.

While I’m being politically incorrect, let me describe to you the mind of a teenage boy. Our frontal lobes aren’t complete. We don’t imagine the future. Our bodies want sex more than we want to stay alive. Literally. Lonely boys tend to be suicidal when the odds of future female companionship are low. 

So if you are wondering how men become cold-blooded killers, it isn’t religion that is doing it. If you put me in that situation, I can say with confidence I would sign up for suicide bomb duty. And I’m not even a believer. Men like hugging better than they like killing. But if you take away my access to hugging, I will probably start killing, just to feel something. I’m designed that way. I’m a normal boy. And I make no apology for it.

Now consider the controversy over the Syrian immigrants. The photos show mostly men of fighting age. No one cares about adult men, so a 1% chance of a hidden terrorist in the group – who might someday kill women and children – is unacceptable. I have twice blogged on the idea of siphoning out the women and small kids from the Caliphate and leaving millions of innocent adult men to suffer and die. I don’t recall anyone complaining about leaving millions of innocent adult males to horrible suffering. In this country, any solution to a problem that involves killing millions of adult men is automatically on the table.

You want a linguistic kill shot to end DAESH recruiting? I don’t have the details worked out, but perhaps something along the lines of…

If you kill infidels, you will be rewarded with virgins in heaven. But if you kill your own leaders today – the ones holding the leash on our balls – you can have access to women tomorrow. And tomorrow is sooner.

Teens aren’t good at planning ahead. 


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Halloween: A Gender Flexible Kid’s Dream

A few hours after offspring Harry drove away from my apartment with a carload of props for their* two-day photo shoot, I received an email alert from Amazon. A package from Zaza Bridal would be delivered the next day. Huh, I wondered. Harry had carried out a boogie board, microwave, plush pink unicorn and a few small boxes, but hadn’t said a word about expecting any other packages.

“Do you need this for Friday?” I typed, forwarding the email from my iPhone.

“Nope. halloween :),” they replied.

I smiled. At 24 years old, Harry had put together five different looks for Halloween 2014. That’s when they’d informed me that for drag queens Halloween was the equivalent of the World Cup. “Bring your A-game or don’t bother playing,” they’d said.

“How many costumes planned for this year?” I wrote, which was the same as asking how many parties they’d be going to. I knew my child would never wear the same get up twice.

“Haha at least 4…” Harry answered.

I laughed out loud reading their short list of costume ideas. “Those all sound great! It’s SO fun being your mom. xo,” I responded. Then I sat back and reveled in the joy of Harry’s enthusiasm for Halloween. It had begun at an early age. I remembered their blue ghost at age five, the “purple thing” outfit and handmade mask at six years old, and the standout vampire geisha at nine.

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With an audible sigh, I tapped into the parental peace I’d found that assured me my big Halloween mistakes from the years Harry was two and four hadn’t stifled their creativity.

Then I thought about the fiercer and more evolved parents of today, like the dad in Virginia whose young son wants to be Elsa from Frozen this year. Those parents understand that clothing doesn’t have a gender. They see Halloween for what it is: a holiday that celebrates imagination and gives children a chance to pretend they’re someone or something that they’re not and flex their inner desire for freedom.

I’ve learned that if we stifle a child’s creative drive because it doesn’t conform to what our binary-driven society has imposed as “gender-appropriate,” then we risk blocking an important aspect of that child’s development. Halloween or not, the message to send to our gender creative, gender flexible, gender nonconforming kids is to reach for happy and always be themselves. And from my experience, children instinctively know to do just that.

That’s the thing about kids, they don’t think about what they can’t do or shouldn’t do; they think about what they can do and want to do. They know who they are and don’t care what anyone else thinks.

So this year, while my Harry is planning their five costumes, I’m hopeful that the little boys who want to be this year’s Pink Power Ranger and the girls who fancy themselves as Antman get the encouragement they need to find and express every magical ounce of their Halloween joy.

*Julie’s offspring Harry, who identifies as genderqueer, has no preferred gender pronoun. She likes to use “they” to think of them as a person first, with gender coming second.

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Checking My Gender Bias – Master Wizard Hypothesis

I’ve been blogging about my Master Wizard Hypothesis while focusing on Donald Trump and a number of other men. For the sake of balance, I will “out” for you two of the greatest living female Master Wizards of persuasion. Before I tell you their names, see if you can guess who they are based on my list of known tells for a Master Wizard.

1. Unusual success in a field, as if coming from out of nowhere.

2. A gifted communicator with a simple, visual, story-telling style.

3. A big influence on hundreds of millions of people.

4. A tie to a known wizard.

5. High intelligence.

6. Success in a variety of business ventures.

7. Unusually high productivity.

Okay. What famous women, still living, fit all of the tells for a Master Wizard of persuasion? If you are coming up blank, you might be a sexist.

Are you ready for the answers?

1. You should have guessed this one.

But here comes the funnier one. Remember: They hide in plain sight. That’s part of the skill set. 

2. I’ll bet you didn’t guess this Master Wizard.

See? Hiding in plain sight.

Reminder to new readers: The Master Wizard Hypothesis is just for entertainment. There are many ways to view the world. This one just happens to fit the data. Your way of viewing the world might work great too.

I wrote this book. If you don’t read it, someday you will be the only one in the room who doesn’t understand why systems are better than goals. And I will feel bad for you. But you will have it coming for not reading my book. Karma. Just saying. Play it safe.


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How Long Does A Gender Transition Take?

Model, actress, and designer Isis King may have been born biologically male, but ever since childhood she knew she was woman. Establishing a transgender identity does not come easy though, and at 23, Isis was homeless, living at a New York City LGBT shelter. After finding work as a background model for an America’s Next Top Model photo shoot, host Tyra Banks took an interest in her, and asked Isis be a part of the show’s next season. Within months, Isis was in the national spotlight as the first transgender contestant on Top Model, and she has used her platform to follow her dreams ever since – designing her own line of clothing, expanding her modeling and acting career, and serving as an activist for transgender people everywhere.

Different for every person

Transitioning gender isn’t something Isis takes lightly, but it’s also something that can’t be defined the same way for every person. “When you transition,” Isis says, “everyone has their own journey, everyone has own timeframe.” Some people may be satisfied with just taking hormones, while others might not be satisfied in their body until they’ve had breast augmentation or the full genital reassignment surgery.

Isis has had all three procedures. She started taking hormones at 21, and by 23 she had completed her full gender reassignment. But her journey hasn’t ended; “I kind of realized your journey is never really complete…
just kind of evolving,” she says.

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The Brave New World of Gender Pioneers

Do you feel like you are having trouble keeping up with all the social changes that are sweeping through our world? I get it. Most of the world is still trying to untangle themselves from a rainbow hurricane while trying to wrap their heads around Gay Marriage being a national right. And here we are; right in the middle of #Lovewins pushing the collective consciousness even further. You know who we are; we’re the gender pioneers.

That regular guy who lives next door who has a vagina.

Recently, someone called me “a regular guy,” I chuckled. There’s never been much that’s regular about me, but it felt good to be called a “regular guy”. That doesn’t happen very often. Im not sure how most people would define a regular guy, but it felt like they were saying, that I was “someone they could have a beer with. When a person transitions it affects everyone around them from the most casual of relationships like our neighborhood barista at our favorite coffee shop to our family, friends, and co-workers. It just bullshit to try to pretend that this is not a challenge for everyone in some way.

When a person transitions everyone in their world becomes a gender pioneer. Everything that they might have thought to be solid and indisputable such as Sally is my sister; now becomes entirely different on many levels when Sally comes out and tells their family that they are a man. Now Sally is their brother, and someone’s daughter is now a son. We cannot deny as transgender people that reaching for our true identity doesn’t change the lives of those around us. And as transgender people that we are asking for our beloveds to become gender pioneers with us. They are asked not only to see us with new eyes; but they are also enlisted as gender educators to the community. It’s hard for them to avoid that role; as everyone will have questions.

Together, in the best of circumstances when transgender people are accepted and loved within their family, friend and professional circles – everyone becomes a pioneer in a world that has up until recently thought that gender was fixed and that it was only sexual expression that could be fluid.

And if that doesn’t change your world view about gender identity and family dynamics what will? For many “regular guys and girls”, I am sure it has felt a bit like our culture is like Indiana Jones being chased by the great big ball of progress that is rolling behind us; about to run us over. It’s a lot to take in and to keep up with. And it’s all wonderful; but while we are dancing in the rainbows, and chatting about Cailtyn Jenner’s new corset – that perhaps we have more compassion and empathy to our society that is also trying to keep up and change their attitudes that are deeply ingrained.

So, while many of us have been walking this journey for a very long time; the rest of the world hasn’t had a moment to catch up. And perhaps that’s a great thing; that’s how progress is made.
Just remember that all of us are gender pioneers; we are at the forefront of a brand new way of thinking not only about sexual orientation, and sexual fluidity but it’s also a time where the right to question our gender identity is being accepted and supported as well as the right to be fluid with our gender expression.

This is a beginning.

Tips to help one process the big ball of progress

  • BREATH
  • If you know someone who is going to or has transitioned think about how you can be supportive and let them know that your friendship and love for them is not contingent on their gender identity.
  • If you have a family member or close friend who has or is transitioning you don’t have to try and explain their personal story, it is theirs to tell.
  • Be sympathetic to all who are trying to understand this new way of looking gender
  • It is not anyone’s fault
  • Being transgender is not a choice just as we have learned that being gay or lesbian is not a choice.
  • Think about how loving it is to give a safe space for those you care about to be their authentic selves

I think it’s so important in this time of rapid change and fast social media; that
we remember how new all of this is to most people. As transgender people we have an opportunity to help create positive change; like being understanding and forgiving when people make a mistake. If we must correct a person do it with grace and a smile. I don’t believe most people’s intent is to hurt or offend. No matter how many times we have been hurt or offended if we choose to look from a positive perspective and not a negative one; things will change for the better. We can control our own attitudes -starting with removing the chips off our shoulders!

It’s such an amazing time for all of us.

And some days, it good to take some time out and be a regular guy, who likes to hang out with my friends, puppies and have good beer.

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This Woman Refuses To Shave Her Armpits, And Gender Equality Is Only Part Of It

More and more women are refusing to shave their armpits — and resisting patriarchal beauty standards in the process.

Loyola University of Chicago student Bobby Crowley, who stopped shaving her underarms a few years ago, spoke to the double standard men and women face when it comes to their body hair in a conversation with HuffPost Live.

“It’s not just a body image thing, but it’s also a gender thing,” she said. “This is very clearly a gendered prescription that has been put upon women, whereas men are walking around and no one expects them to shave their armpits, obviously. People will talk about it like it’s a hygiene thing, but really it’s a gender thing. It’s absolutely only prescribed only to women, and there’s no way that women are any messier than [men], that’s for sure.”

While Lizzie Crocker, a staff writer at The Daily Beast, told HuffPost Live’s Nancy Redd that unshaven pits have become “inextricably linked to feminism,” Crowley said her choice to stop shaving was simply a personal one.

“Most importantly for me, when I started, it wasn’t about a movement. It wasn’t about anyone but myself. I would shave [my armpits] and they would be bleeding,” she said. “And really the reason I stopped is because I sort of looked at myself and said, I’m literally hurting myself every day because I have really sensitive skin.”

When she stepped back and questioned why she had been shaving every day, she had an epiphany.

“[I was not shaving] for me. It was a worry that when I lift my arms, I’m going to be shamed for having made a decision about my body that doesn’t go with how other people feel,” she said. “And that, to me, was most important.”

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Immigration Officials May Begin Considering Gender Identity When Housing Transgender Detainees

SANTA ANA, Calif. (AP) — Immigration authorities will consider housing transgender detainees based on the gender they identify with in the wake of criticism about detention conditions for the population, officials said on Monday.

Detention staff should consider transgender detainees’ preferences when making decisions about housing and clothing and what pronouns should be used, Immigration and Customs Enforcement said in new guidelines for the treatment of transgender detainees.

The agency will start tracking data for transgender detainees, train detention staff and draft individual detention plans for transgender detainees to deal with issues ranging from hormone therapy to safety, said Andrew Lorenzen-Strait, ICE’s deputy assistant director of custody programs.

“ICE will allow for the placement of a transgender woman consistent with their gender identity, meaning that a transgender woman could be with biological females,” said Lorenzen-Strait, who was also appointed as a national coordinator for issues related to gay, lesbian and transgender detainees.

The move did little to quell criticism from advocates who have urged the agency to release more transgender immigration detainees, citing their increased risk of sexual assault in detention. Last week, a heckler interrupted President Barack Obama’s remarks at a gay pride event in Washington to protest the detention and deportation of gay, lesbian and transgender immigrants.

“This is all interesting on paper, to say the least, but we need to see how this actually plays out,” said Raffi Freedman-Gurspan, a policy adviser for the National Center for Transgender Equality. “We don’t think these folks should be in detention centers, period.”

The guidance comes three years after the Department of Justice issued similar rules for transgender inmates. But even now many jails and prisons aren’t following the rules and continue to house transgender inmates based on their genitalia or place them in solitary confinement purportedly for their protection, said Carl Takei, a staff attorney at the American Civil Liberties Union’s National Prison Project.

“Most prisons and jails are still in the Dark Ages about these issues,” Takei said.

Getting the rules put into practice may be tough for immigration officials, who house most detainees at contract facilities, Takei said.

ICE currently has about 60 transgender detainees. About 25 are housed in a special unit in Santa Ana, California, for transgender women and gay men. The rest are housed in different facilities across the country, mostly with the general population and consistent with their biological sex, Lorenzen-Strait said.

The agency currently houses about 31,000 detainees a day, he said.

Under the latest guidance, the agency said officials should consider a host of factors before detaining an individual, including transgender identity.

Given the population’s small numbers and increased risk, transgender immigrants should be offered alternatives to detention, said Aaron Morris, legal director of Immigration Equality.

“When you’re thinking about who should absolutely be released, pregnant women, people with severe health problems, transgender individuals, there are certain populations that weigh so heavily in favor of release that it is dumbfounding the knee-jerk reaction is always to detain,” Morris said. “It’s not in anyone’s best interest.”

But immigration enforcement advocate Jessica Vaughan, who is director of policy studies at the Center for Immigration Studies, said she worries that gender identity could trump other factors, such as flight risk, when making decisions about detention.

“In practice, this could become a double standard for transgender individuals that seems unprecedented,” Vaughan wrote in an email.

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Susan Sarandon Is Proud Of Her Son, Who ‘Colors Outside The Lines’ Of Gender By Wearing A Dress

Actress Susan Sarandon says her son “colors outside the lines” when it comes to gender expression, and she’s perfectly OK with that.

The Oscar-winner, 68, opened up about her 23-year-old son, Miles Robbins, during a June 15 appearance at the TrevorLIVE, The Trevor Project’s annual fundraiser.

“My son Miles is a musician and a DJ,” she told People magazine. “And sometimes when his band performs they all wear dresses, and he has long hair.”

Sarandon went on to note that Miles’ willingness to break stereotypes had her full support. “I think the more crayons you have in your box to color outside the lines, the more exciting it is,” she said.

The “Thelma and Louise” star has been a longtime supporter of The Trevor Project, a lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) youth advocacy organization, and said motherhood has motivated her ongoing support.

“As a mother, I know how difficult it is to survive the teenage years intact and the socialization process — if you step out of line, it’s so difficult,” Sarandon, who is slated to play the lesbian grandmother of a transgender teen in the upcoming film, “Three Generations,” told the publication. “And there are so many kids these days who are questioning, gay or transgender, who have a very tough time and it could be very dangerous for them.”

Earlier this month, Sarandon discussed gender identity in today’s evolving society in a candid interview on “Oprah’s Master Class,” saying she was “so excited” by the “fluidity of gender that’s happening” in today’s evolving society.

“I think once all those ‘boxes’ are gone, it’s going to be so much more interesting and so much less energy spent on those ‘boxes,'” she said. “We can get down to the nitty-gritty of, really, what a person is.”

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Parents Combat Gender Stereotypes With Futuristic Kids’ Clothing Line

Designer Tiffe Fermaint and her fiancé Keith Walker hope that their kids’ clothing line will provide a cool alternative to the countless children’s brands that promote harmful gender stereotypes.

Inspired by the birth of their daughter Violet, Fermaint and Walker launched Baby Teith in 2013. Fermaint told The Huffington Post that she searched in vain for clothing that was gender neutral and eco-friendly, made from organic cotton. “I was tired of seeing nothing but pink body suits with the word ‘princess’ blinged out in rhinestones in the girls’ department,” she said, adding, “There’s nothing wrong with that, it’s just not my style.”

Seeking options for her daughter, the mom used her experience in fashion as a designer and visual stylist to create her own clothing line. Baby Teith was a hit with Fermaint’s friends, and after many requests, she opened an Etsy shop to sell her designs to other parents. The designer and her fiancé eventually both quit their jobs to focus on Baby Teith full time.

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The mom describes her children’s clothes as “fun, comfortable and memorable” and says she hopes her vivid, futuristic prints inspire their little wearers’ imaginations. From moon and nebula images to a design inspired by VHS tape glitches, each print is truly unique.

“Our newest collection for fall available through our Kickstarter Project is called Medieval Time Traveler,” Fermaints said. “It is inspired by the courage of Joan of Arc is meant to empower children.”

Last month, Fermaint and Walker launched a Kickstarter campaign to help fund the brand’s production through an ethical manufacturer and bring Baby Teith to a major trade show.

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The couple hopes the message behind their designs reaches the mainstream kids’ clothing world. “We genuinely believe that in this day and age, gender stereotypes are outdated,” Fermaint told HuffPost. “We want our daughter to form her own opinions on the subject and feel that she can dress any way she wishes.”

“Instilling this notion before she forms opinions like ‘Pink is just for girls and I have to wear pink because I am a girl’ can be an important step,” she continued. “We are extremely happy to see more clothing in the market that are gender neutral. The market is changing and we hope that bigger brands take notice. This is a huge step for gender equality.”

The Baby Teith Kickstarter campaign ends on June 6, and so far, they’ve raised almost 70 percent of their $ 10,000 goal. The brand also won the Phoenix New Times newspaper’s 2014 award for “Best Kids Clothing.”

As for their very first customer, Fermaint says her daughter really enjoys Baby Teith clothes. “She may not be able to articulate how much she loves the garments yet, but we like to assume they are her favorite.”

Keep scrolling and follow Baby Teith on Facebook and Instagram for a sample of what the brand has to offer.

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Gender Equality Can’t Be Ignored If We Want Global Progress: Report

There’s no other option: Gender equality has to become a priority for the world to reach development goals in the coming years, according to one international advocacy group.

The ONE campaign outlined key elements to ensuring human progress in its 2015 data report, and national spending by the least developed countries will play a vital role. Governments must agree to a “minimum per capita spending level to deliver” on basic needs, such as health and education, “with a focus on girls and women.”

“Poverty and gender inequality go hand-in-hand,” the report reads. “Girls and women in the poorest countries suffer a double hardship, of being both born in a poor country and being born female. Put simply, poverty is sexist.

The report comes ahead of a new set of Sustainable Development Goals to be launched this September. They will replace the Millennium Development Goals (MDGs) that were established by the United Nations in 2000 and were to be met by this year.

According to ONE, the world experienced significant progress on a number of MDGs, including a drastic reduction in the proportion of those living in extreme poverty. But other benchmarks weren’t reached and “too many people were left behind” — especially when it comes to global health and access to education.

Nearly half of the globe’s maternal deaths occur amongst women living in the least developed countries, for instance, even though they only comprise 13 percent of the world’s total female population.

“Despite multiple summits to debate these issues, there’s a shocking lack of global leadership to deliver genuine, life-changing commitments for the world’s poorest and hardest to reach,” Eloise Todd, ONE’s global policy director, told Reuters. “New global goals which could set out the roadmap to end extreme poverty will be worth little if leaders fail to back them with an ambitious financing plan.”

While international aid funding from DAC countries remained near all-time highs last year — led by generous giving from Nordic countries — poor nations must implement fair tax policies to up domestic revenue and stop corruption among government leaders that too often hinders progress, the report notes.

A recent initiative by the ONE campaign — which has fought disease and global poverty since its creation in 2004 — took the Internet by storm, garnering support from Malala Yousafzai and Hollywood director and producer Shonda Rhimes.

The #Strengthie movement encouraged social media users to post a photo of themselves mimicking Rosie the Riveter’s iconic pose in hopes of spreading awareness on how poverty disproportionately affects girls and women around the world. The campaign also asked supporters to sign a petition calling on world leaders to prioritize gender equality.

To learn more about the ONE campaign, visit its website here.

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Huge Gender Bias Found in Hiring – New Study

CNN reports on a new study showing there is a HUGE gender bias in hiring decisions in the United States and it has been this way in some fields since the eighties. You already knew there was gender bias in hiring (duh) but you probably did not know how bad it was. Check this out: The gender preference in hiring decisions was 2-to-1 in some areas for candidates with equal qualifications. 

That is an embarrassing number for a country that prides itself on equal opportunity. A 2-to-1 advantage is not even within driving distance of equal rights.

By the way, this study matches my personal observations over a lifetime. I have been in countless meetings in which a strong gender preference in hiring was discussed behind closed doors. Now I feel terrible about all those conversations. I am officially part of the problem because I did nothing to stop it.

I’m not sure if I mentioned that the study shows the gender advantage in hiring favors women by 2-to-1. That matches my experience in business. I have been in lots of closed-door meeting with other men discussing a preference for hiring women. I have never heard a man express a preference for hiring another man. Nor have I heard it in a private conversation. It makes me wonder how common my situation is.

Here’s the study.

Two questions for you:

1. Have you ever been in a business meeting in which you or co-workers discussed a preference for hiring women?

2. Have you ever been in a business meeting in which you or your coworkers discussed a preference for hiring a man?

Scott

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Drones that hunt other drones in the sky and identify the human operator based on radio signals. I need that drone-hunter for defending my home from drones! Every celebrity should have one. How the hell does Madonna keep the camera drones from hovering outside her bedroom window?

And now there are drones that do the hard part of lining up your perfect photograph for you while you concentrate on taking the picture.

Also coming soon, artificial limbs that can feel what they touch. How long before people voluntarily give up their weak human limbs for powerful robot arms that feel the same? We are in The Age of Cyborgs. The human reign is pretty much over.


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Huge Gender Bias Found in Hiring – New Study

CNN reports on a new study showing there is a HUGE gender bias in hiring decisions in the United States and it has been this way in some fields since the eighties. You already knew there was gender bias in hiring (duh) but you probably did not know how bad it was. Check this out: The gender preference in hiring decisions was 2-to-1 in some areas for candidates with equal qualifications. 

That is an embarrassing number for a country that prides itself on equal opportunity. A 2-to-1 advantage is not even within driving distance of equal rights.

By the way, this study matches my personal observations over a lifetime. I have been in countless meetings in which a strong gender preference in hiring was discussed behind closed doors. Now I feel terrible about all those conversations. I am officially part of the problem because I did nothing to stop it.

I’m not sure if I mentioned that the study shows the gender advantage in hiring favors women by 2-to-1. That matches my experience in business. I have been in lots of closed-door meeting with other men discussing a preference for hiring women. I have never heard a man express a preference for hiring another man. Nor have I heard it in a private conversation. It makes me wonder how common my situation is.

Here’s the study.

Two questions for you:

1. Have you ever been in a business meeting in which you or co-workers discussed a preference for hiring women?

2. Have you ever been in a business meeting in which you or your coworkers discussed a preference for hiring a man?

Scott

@ScottAdamsSays

——- Over on the Top Tech Blog —————-

Drones that hunt other drones in the sky and identify the human operator based on radio signals. I need that drone-hunter for defending my home from drones! Every celebrity should have one. How the hell does Madonna keep the camera drones from hovering outside her bedroom window?

And now there are drones that do the hard part of lining up your perfect photograph for you while you concentrate on taking the picture.

Also coming soon, artificial limbs that can feel what they touch. How long before people voluntarily give up their weak human limbs for powerful robot arms that feel the same? We are in The Age of Cyborgs. The human reign is pretty much over.


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The Mother’s Day I Became a Gender Creative Kid’s Champion

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When the holiday just for moms rolls around, I can’t help but think of my first one in 1990. Harry was just six weeks old. Their* dad and I tucked them into a red baby carriage and walked through the spectacular tulip gardens at Milwaukee’s Boerner Botanical Gardens. That trip became a tradition.

Harry started making tulip-themed Mother’s Day cards for me in kindergarten. They were in third grade when I received a handmade coupon book written in Spanish, redeemable for three kisses (besos), a hug (abrazo) and a cleaning of the parakeets’ cage (never mind).

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The Mother’s Day Harry was 12, they handed me a plain business envelope with M❤M written on the front. I unfolded a single sheet of white paper to find a typed poem titled “The Joy of Having a Mother.” I was blown away.

“You wrote me a poem?!”

“Well, you wanted one,” they said.

Harry had begun writing a lot of poetry, and I’d asked at the beginning of the school year if they’d write one for me.

“That’s true,” I replied, “but I didn’t know you’d actually do it. And I certainly didn’t think it would be about me.” I sat down to read, my eyes lingering on each phrase.

“The Joy of Having a Mother
In life we only get one,
One who could never be outdone,
Somebody who is there forever and always throughout eternity,
Somebody not tainted throughout modernity,
They are there to help you, and to guide your direction,
One who will never face you with rejection,
Cherish this someone,
This heroine,
This champion,
Cherish this someone, for who they are,
Whether you are near or far,
Because they will love you, you not another,
And that is the joy of having a mother…

I wiped a wet streak from my face. I’d never felt more important as a mother than in that moment. In a few lines my child had articulated our unbreakable bond and brought clarity to my role as their mom. But it felt a bit strange; I’d never thought of myself as a heroine or champion before. What I seemed to recall most were the times I thought I’d failed them.

I still felt guilty about not letting them be Wendy from Peter Pan for Halloween when they were two. And I wanted a double do-over for not having learned my lesson when they were four years old and I wouldn’t buy the Pink Power Ranger costume, only the blue one. I wish I’d known then what I know now. Harry didn’t care what anyone else thought; it was I who cared. I didn’t want anyone making fun of my child or judging me as a woman who was somehow making her kid gay.

I know we all make mistakes, feel guilty, or wish we’d done a thing or two differently. But here’s what Harry taught me: Unconditional love and support have no expiration date. We can demonstrate what it means to cherish our children at any moment in the present, even if our own mothers didn’t have the resources to do the same for us.

I was struck recently by something dancer Jerel Maddox said on a recent episode of The Prancing Elites Project. There’s a scene we learn that dance-crew member Adrian’s mom has never seen her son perform. She’s been to her other son’s basketball games and her daughter’s recitals, but never been there for Adrian. “There’s absolutely nothing like a mother’s love and a mother’s support,” Jerel says in a private on-camera moment. “If Adrian’s mom doesn’t come to the competition, it will emotionally tear him up.”

I think it’s a mother’s job to encourage her child to find their passion. We’re also in their lives to defend and protect our kids and give them a strong sense of belonging. They need that from us. It’s how they learn the importance of self-love and self-acceptance, the attributes that lead them to become happy, healthy and emotionally secure adults.

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These days Harry is my hero. They are true to themselves and still don’t care what anyone else thinks. They trust themselves and believe in their worthiness. And while Harry may not make cards or write poems for me on Mother’s Day anymore, they fill my world with indescribable joy. And once in awhile, for no reason at all, they’ll surprise me with a colorful bouquet of tulips.

*Author’s Note: My now-25-year-old child, who identifies as genderqueer, tells me they have no preferred gender pronoun. I like to use “they” to identify them as a person first, with gender coming second. Sometimes I mess up and say “he,” or “she” when they’re performing as Amber Alert. When I apologize they’ll say, “Mom, I really don’t care what you call me.”

This piece first appeared on the Give a Damn Campaign and Julie’s personal blog, My Son Wears Heels. You can also find her on Facebook.

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Twitter Destroys Stacey Dash For Gender Inequality Goof [Photos]

Stacey Dash is once again catching heat from Twitter for her statements, this time on the issue of the gap of equal pay between men and women. Dash, a  FOX News contributor, happens to think women just need to work a little harder and that invited mounds of slander from Twitter.

Dash was a guest on The Meredith Vieria Show this week and the subject of the #MakeItFairProject PSA on the gender inequality in Hollywood came up. Wilson’s PSA was well-received by many, calling to attention how big the gap in pay between men and women truly is. Dash essentially thinks the idea of gender inequality is a joke.

“It’s the same thing with race: It’s an excuse,” said Dash. “Stop making excuses. If there are opportunities, seize them and be prepared for them and be the best, if that’s what it takes. If you have to be extraordinary, then be extraordinary.”

Well, it didn’t take long for Twitter to load up their snark guns and get on the business of making it rain jokes on Dash’s head. Some, of course, made obvious digs at the movie Clueless that Dash starred in while others took even sharper turns at blasting Dash.

Hit the following pages to see some of the slander Stacey Dash caught for her gender inequality quip.

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Huge Gender Bias Found in Hiring – New Study

CNN reports on a new study showing there is a HUGE gender bias in hiring decisions in the United States and it has been this way in some fields since the eighties. You already knew there was gender bias in hiring (duh) but you probably did not know how bad it was. Check this out: The gender preference in hiring decisions was 2-to-1 in some areas for candidates with equal qualifications. 

That is an embarrassing number for a country that prides itself on equal opportunity. A 2-to-1 advantage is not even within driving distance of equal rights.

By the way, this study matches my personal observations over a lifetime. I have been in countless meetings in which a strong gender preference in hiring was discussed behind closed doors. Now I feel terrible about all those conversations. I am officially part of the problem because I did nothing to stop it.

I’m not sure if I mentioned that the study shows the gender advantage in hiring favors women by 2-to-1. That matches my experience in business. I have been in lots of closed-door meeting with other men discussing a preference for hiring women. I have never heard a man express a preference for hiring another man. Nor have I heard it in a private conversation. It makes me wonder how common my situation is.

Here’s the study.

Two questions for you:

1. Have you ever been in a business meeting in which you or co-workers discussed a preference for hiring women?

2. Have you ever been in a business meeting in which you or your coworkers discussed a preference for hiring a man?

Scott

@ScottAdamsSays

——- Over on the Top Tech Blog —————-

Drones that hunt other drones in the sky and identify the human operator based on radio signals. I need that drone-hunter for defending my home from drones! Every celebrity should have one. How the hell does Madonna keep the camera drones from hovering outside her bedroom window?

And now there are drones that do the hard part of lining up your perfect photograph for you while you concentrate on taking the picture.

Also coming soon, artificial limbs that can feel what they touch. How long before people voluntarily give up their weak human limbs for powerful robot arms that feel the same? We are in The Age of Cyborgs. The human reign is pretty much over.


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Huge Gender Bias Found in Hiring – New Study

CNN reports on a new study showing there is a HUGE gender bias in hiring decisions in the United States and it has been this way in some fields since the eighties. You already knew there was gender bias in hiring (duh) but you probably did not know how bad it was. Check this out: The gender preference in hiring decisions was 2-to-1 in some areas for candidates with equal qualifications. 

That is an embarrassing number for a country that prides itself on equal opportunity. A 2-to-1 advantage is not even within driving distance of equal rights.

By the way, this study matches my personal observations over a lifetime. I have been in countless meetings in which a strong gender preference in hiring was discussed behind closed doors. Now I feel terrible about all those conversations. I am officially part of the problem because I did nothing to stop it.

I’m not sure if I mentioned that the study shows the gender advantage in hiring favors women by 2-to-1. That matches my experience in business. I have been in lots of closed-door meeting with other men discussing a preference for hiring women. I have never heard a man express a preference for hiring another man. Nor have I heard it in a private conversation. It makes me wonder how common my situation is.

Here’s the study.

Two questions for you:

1. Have you ever been in a business meeting in which you or co-workers discussed a preference for hiring women?

2. Have you ever been in a business meeting in which you or your coworkers discussed a preference for hiring a man?

Scott

@ScottAdamsSays

——- Over on the Top Tech Blog —————-

Drones that hunt other drones in the sky and identify the human operator based on radio signals. I need that drone-hunter for defending my home from drones! Every celebrity should have one. How the hell does Madonna keep the camera drones from hovering outside her bedroom window?

And now there are drones that do the hard part of lining up your perfect photograph for you while you concentrate on taking the picture.

Also coming soon, artificial limbs that can feel what they touch. How long before people voluntarily give up their weak human limbs for powerful robot arms that feel the same? We are in The Age of Cyborgs. The human reign is pretty much over.


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“We don’t have a six-season plan. To be honest, we don’t even have a three-season plan,” exec producer Alec Berg tells THR.

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My Verdict on Gender Bias in the Workplace

Background: In a recent post I expressed confusion and ignorance about gender bias in the workplace. I asked how it could be true that studies consistently show bias against woman while studies on pay gap do not reflect that bias (according to strangers on the the Internet). Clearly someone is wrong. But who? I had no idea.

So I declared a link war to get to the bottom of things. You sent me your links, and I will declare my verdict(s) today.

But this will not be a closed verdict. This post will stay alive, and I will update it as necessary based on new information. So consider this a draft opinion that can improve over time if we let it. I use science as my model here. We will crawl toward the truth without ever knowing if we are all the way there.

For your reading convenience, I will put this discussion in the form of claims that I judge to be true or not. And I will try to call out my bias in this process as I see it. Feel free to shine a spotlight on anything I miss.

Thanks to all of you for submitting links. And special thanks to Drowlord101 for compiling them by categories. His full list is at the end of this post.

My system for evaluating claims of truth involves looking for consistency. Ideally, all scientific studies would point in the same direction. That seems to be the case on this topic. While folks interpret the results in different ways, the data itself seems consistent.

The other consistency I look for is with my own experience, with common sense, and with the claims and reports of others. Unfortunately, none of those sources of wisdom are reliable. And scientific studies have their own problems. So for me, as a minimum standard, something has to make sense on two dimensions. In other words, if the science matches my experience, or the experience of women, or common sense, I give it more weight than if any of those things are in conflict.

So let’s get to it.

Claim 1: Bias against women exists, and it has an impact on how people act in the real world.

Verdict: True. Multiple studies support this claim. Common sense supports this claim. Personal experience supports this claim. And reports of women support this claim. Confidence level: 100%. (And the same could be said about bias against men.)

Claim 2: Women (as a group) earn about three-quarters of what men (as a group) earn in the United States.

Verdict: True. All studies show a pay gap in that range. And common sense agrees that if women enter careers with lower pay, the average pay of women will be lower. Confidence: 100%

Claim 3: Women who have equal experience as men are paid about three-quarters of what men earn.

Verdict: False. No one who is informed on this topic, including feminists, claim that women of equal talent and experience are paid about three-quarters of what men make, at least in the United States. The pay gap in this particular type of study is only telling us that women choose careers with lower pay. No attempt has been made to isolate how much of the gap, if any, is based on bias. Confidence: 100%

Claim 4: Studies that adjust for equal experience on the same job show a gender pay gap in the 5-10% range. If gender bias exists, it would be in that number, and it would be a big deal.

Verdict: True. Studies that control for job type and experience still show a substantial and troubling difference in pay by gender. If the pay gap is based on bias, the evidence could be hidden in that number. And it would be a big deal.

Claim 5: The existence of a pay gap by gender is so persistent across studies that an intelligent person must conclude bias is a big part of the story. 

Verdict: False. The well-informed on all sides of the topic agree that there are too many uncontrolled variables in the studies to isolate for gender bias in pay gaps. Here are some uncontrolled variables that easily come to my mind:

1. We know tall men earn more than short men. And we know women are generally shorter than men. How much height bias is in the pay difference for women?

2. On average, men and women are different creatures. and they employ different strategies in life, especially when it comes to risk. If male strategies (on average) are more suited to workplace competition, you would expect to see that reflected in pay.

3. What is the impact of desire on success? If society has primed young women to seek balance, and primed young men to seek business success, we would expect different outcomes by gender based on social priming. Some say this is a problem, but it is not a gender bias in the workplace problem. Under this line of thinking, the problem starts in childhood. (More on this later.)

4. Do women and men have the same ego flexibility on average? If you tell me I need to dress like a clown to get a raise, I will immediately go shopping for a clown suit. Other folks might prefer lower pay to avoid the humiliation of the clown suit. Given the way men and women are socialized differently, one can easily imagine a difference in ego flexibility. Does it matter?

5. If men take larger risks, we would expect to see more failures and more big successes too. When you fail, and stay in the same field, your pay generally does not go to zero. But if you succeed big, your pay has a nearly unlimited upside. So I wonder if the few men who succeed by luck, because of greater risk-taking, are skewing the average.

6. Some have hypothesized that evolution makes us act in ways that support our reproductive instincts and everything else is just rationalization. According to this way of thinking, men pursue success to increase their sexual options. For women, business success is unrelated to their ability to get sex. All other things being equal, will the person with the greatest sexual incentive perform better?

7. The hobby-geek hypothesis says men are more likely than women to spend their personal time learning relevant skills. In the stereotyped example, women learn what they need to know to perform the job whereas men have a natural interest in technology and geeky topics that continues into their leisure time. The implication is that even with equal time on the job, the average man is picking up more skills, and eventually it translates into a pay difference.

There you have seven high-potential explanations for a gender pay gap that do no rely on gender bias. Anyone with knowledge on this topic can probably come up with more high-potential explanations for the gender pay gap. I make no claim that any of these explanations are valid. My only point is that they are not studied. And that leads to my most interesting verdict…

Claim 6: Studies show that women with equal experience to men, in the same jobs, are paid less because of gender bias.

Verdict: False. No well-informed feminist makes this claim because the studies have not controlled for the variables necessary to reach an informed opinion. As far as I can tell, the reason no useful studies on this topic exist is because it would be impossible to control all the relevant variables to isolate bias.

Claim 7: The lack of scientific evidence for gender bias in pay levels is evidence it does not exist.

Verdict: False. You can not prove a negative. The lack of useful data is not proof that gender bias has no impact on pay levels. Evaluating this verdict in terms of consistency, I have never personally witnessed a case of an underpaid woman that I recognized as such. Nor have I heard of any such case in recent years. So on every level in which data could be forthcoming on this topic, I see none.

But my lack of seeing something is not evidence that it does not exist. Bias would give me the same subjective experience. 

Keep in mind that controlled experiments outside the workplace consistently show evidence of gender bias. Teachers give better grades on math tests when there is a male name on the test. Men get more job interviews for the same resume as a woman. And female musicians are less likely to be hired when the person doing the hiring knows the gender, as opposed to simply listening to the performance. How the hell could all of that bias NOT translate into the workplace, you might ask.

But we also know that managers in the modern workplace are trained to be on alert for bias and to seek the best employees. And we know managers get kudos and professional respect when they accomplish diversity. How could you measure that counter-force?

So while gender bias clearly displays itself in controlled studies, the workplace is messier, nearly impossible to measure, and has counter-forces against gender bias that are generally ignored in studies. There is no real way to isolate all of the variables.

Claim 8: Gender bias is a bigger problem for women than it is for men because we live in a patriarchy.

Verdict: Half true. A well-educated white alpha male experiences little or no gender “problems” in his life. And when you are winning a game, you always think the rules are fair. If you are lucky enough to be in this rare group, and I am, gender bias is not on your list of biggest personal problems.

Some of you know my back story, and you know my careers in banking and telecommunications ended when my boss for each job told me in clear language that I could not be promoted because I was a white male. Both companies were under public pressure to bring diversity to the ranks of management, so they put a brake on promoting white males for several years. Now put my experience in perspective: I lost two promising careers to gender discrimination and I STILL don’t rank it as a problem in my life because of my educated white male advantage. All I had to do was pivot from a place with disadvantages to a place where I had none. I recall being incensed by the inconvenience of changing careers, but I never felt as though my career options were limited in a meaningful way.

Unfortunately, the vast majority of men in the United States are not in my situation. Most men are competing on a more equal playing field with everyone else in the world. For that group, the white male advantage is not working its full magic, and the sensitivity to any small advantage for women would be, one assumes, greater.

The topic of gender “advantage” led me to some interesting lists of the many ways it sucks to be male. I found every item on the lists to be true, such as the fact that men experience a lot of violence in their lives. Interestingly, none of the disadvantages of being a man actually register with me in my real life as “problems.” As a man, I have a higher risk for all sorts of danger, but that danger matches my personal preferences. If my female friend and I come upon a fight that needs to be broken up, I have a strong preference for being the one that takes on that risk. I don’t know how much is biology and how much is social programming, but if I am getting what I prefer, can I call it a problem? 

In summary, there are plenty of disadvantages of being male, female, or any variation on the spectrum. But those “disadvantages” might not seem so bad to the people experiencing them. For example, I would never want the disadvantage of having a baby-making body, with all the maintenance and risk involved. But if a magic genie gave all women a chance to become men, I suspect few would take the option. People tend to be happy with their situation even if observers feel they should not be.

The problem, some say, is that women might be making personal choices early in life that limit their access to money, power, and influence as adults. And those “choices” might be the result of societal programming as opposed to rational decision-making. Is this a problem that needs to be fixed? 

By one filter, folks are just making decisions based on preferences and there is no problem whatsoever. By another filter, all kids are incompetent decision-makers, so if society is steering half of them wrong, that is an enormous drag on civilization. So yes, it might be a very, very big deal.

But now we get to the interesting part.

Feminism works because it raises awareness of our biases and our choices. And it acts as a club when needed. Thanks to the good work of feminists and their allies, the gender pay gap has reached a point where bias is hard to tease out of the data. I worry that if you removed the social force of feminist activism society might slide backwards on gender bias.

The interesting part of the story is that the most effective tool feminists have is a misinterpretation of the study data. Feminist activists have convinced the under-informed public (including me until this week) that the gender pay gap is clearly demonstrated by studies. The result is that men are keenly aware they are being watched on this topic, and when you watch people they act more responsibly. So the bad interpretation of the data probably gets us to a better world. Who would act differently if they thought the studies said this: “There is a gender pay gap, and there are lots of potential explanations for it, but we haven’t isolated all the variables.” That would inspire no one to act differently.

So there is a rational argument for the continued misinterpretation of the gender pay gap data because it seems a useful counter-weight against a tendency for male bias. To put it another way, if you need all that advocacy and pressure just to get within spitting distance of male pay levels, the pressure must have been working against some other force. And the best candidate for that opposing force is gender bias. (Clearly this is speculation.)

On the other hand, my background in hypnosis and my hobby-level knowledge on the science of influence tells me this might be the time for gender activists to switch tactics. When women did not have the right to vote, society needed a sledgehammer to fix the problem. Now that women are succeeding in all fields, perhaps a scalpel is in order for tweaking the last mile.

Feminism currently sends this message to young girls: The world is full of gender bias and male privilege. If you are born a woman, you are a second-class citizen. Adult women are failing to achieve equal pay with men.

Compare that to a message that is just as consistent with the available data but to me sounds more positive: Despite thousands of years of gender bias, women are succeeding in every field that interests them. The gender pay gap has shrunk to the point where we can not identify gender bias as a cause. You are all winners. And all paths are open.

Feminists, I think it is time to take a bow. You won. And the world is a far better place for your efforts. I think I can speak for all men who have mothers, sisters, female friends, female spouses, and female lovers when I say, “Thank you.”

But I also say maybe it is time to stop fighting the last war and adjust your strategy to reflect the reality in 2015.

As an employer, if you tell me women are underpaid everywhere else, I start to wonder about the competitiveness of women. Can all of those other employers be wrong? But if you tell me the opposite — that women are paid about the same when they do the same work — I view women and men as equal commodities. In other words, trying to fix the remaining bias problem with politics might be the only thing that prevents market forces from fixing the situation on its own. That is speculation, but it feels reasonable enough to be worthy of testing, assuming such studies are possible.

I made a lot of references to studies without linking to them. You can find most of those links in Drowlord101s list below. But if anything I said is not backed by data, let me know and I will adjust.

And remember this is a living debate. My assumption is that it will change over time.

A final note on my personal biases: I did not expect my verdict to go this way. I thought there would be studies supporting opposite sides of the issue and it would be impossible to sort them out. My blind spot was assuming feminists were on the same page. It turns out that well-informed people of all types are on the same page with this topic and the under-informed are on another page. 

Now you are part of the well-informed.

But let’s not call this truth. Let’s call it a first draft. It is your turn to fix what I got wrong.

Scott Adams

@ScottAdamsSays

My book on success: “Best book I’ve read in years” – 5-star review on Amazon.com, Andrew Chowning.

The Drowlord101 Link List (comments are his)

Research
http://ftp.iza.org/dp8603.pdf
http://pages.stern.nyu.edu/~dc…
http://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/pa…
http://www.bls.gov/cps/wlf-dat…
http://www.collegeatlas.org/to…
http://www.consad.com/content/…
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pu…
https://web.stanford.edu/group…
https://www.census.gov/compend…
https://www.destatis.de/DE/Pub…
https://www.destatis.de/EN/Fac…
http://www.randalolson.com/201…

Reputable News Sites
http://www.bloomberg.com/bw/ar…
http://www.cbsnews.com/news/th…
http://www.chicagotribune.com/…
http://www.cnbc.com/id/1012628…
http://www.forbes.com/sites/ka…
http://www.jec.senate.gov/publ…
http://www.sciencedirect.com/s… (gender bias & business loans)
http://www.washingtonpost.com/…

Disreputable News Sites
http://madamenoire.com/518309/…
http://www.aauw.org/files/2013…
http://www.amwa-doc.org/news/g…
http://www.consad.com/content/…
http://www.economistsdoitwithm…
http://www.infoplease.com/ipa/…
http://www.iwpr.org/initiative…
http://www.newrepublic.com/art…
http://www.thedailybeast.com/a…

Blogs About the Subject
http://blog.dilbert.com/post/1…
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/…
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/…
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/…
http://slatestarcodex.com/2015…
http://www.niceman.org/notify-…
https://danielmiessler.com/blo…

Tangents (e.g. not directly related to pay gap)
http://en.chessbase.com/post/e…
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/A…
http://ftp.iza.org/dp5973.pdf (girls favored in gradeschool)
http://louadlergroup.com/a-7-s…
http://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/pa… (gender disparity in criminal cases)
http://psych.fullerton.edu/rli… (gender issues bibliography?)
http://realsexism.com/ (men angry about stuff)
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/educ… (girls favored in gradeschool)
http://www.pnas.org/content/10… (men favored in science at college)
http://www.pnas.org/content/11… (men favored in science at college)
http://www.salon.com/2011/10/1… (women overshare)
http://www.ted.com/talks/susan…
http://yourbusiness.azcentral…. (gender conflict in workplace)
https://educationrealist.wordp… (gap in gre scores)

Completely Off Topic
http://content.time.com/time/n…
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/L…
http://rhrealitycheck.org/arti…
http://talkingpointsmemo.com/t…
http://web.csulb.edu/~mfiebert… (bibliography of women violence against male partners)
http://www.bls.gov/iif/oshwc/c… (work-related injuries – mostly men)
http://www.catalyst.org/knowle… (buying power — which gender spends the money)
http://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/previe… (rape)
http://www.census.gov/prod/200… (custody and child support)
http://www.deathandtaxesmag.co…
http://www.elsevier.com/ (do your own research here!)
http://www.employersdirect-uk….
http://www.gallup.com/poll/162… (abortion)
http://www.dailymotion.com/vid…
http://www.mercatornet.com/art… (abortion)
http://www.nydailynews.com/new… (child support)
http://www.popsci.com/science/… (rape)
http://www.popsci.com/scitech/…
http://www.theguardian.com/com…
https://docs.google.com/docume… (I couldn’t view it)
https://uwspace.uwaterloo.ca/b… (benevolent sexism)


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Science Fails Again (to communicate) on Gender Issues

As a clarification, I have little interest in the politics of gender discrimination in the workplace. But the psychology of it fascinates me like few things have. 

I doubt I have seen worse arguments on both sides of an issue. Most people identify as either a man or a woman, so the “my team” problem overwhelms our rational capacity. No one, including me, can come anywhere near objectivity on this issue. So how do you make rational decisions on a topic in which no human has even the slightest potential to be rational?

I like the challenge. And few people would be reckless enough to go where I plan to go on this. 

Every time I see an article on the Internet about gender issues in the workplace, I see these two opposing comments:

1. There are many studies that show gender bias. For example, teachers give better grades on math tests to male students, but the difference vanishes when the tests have no name on them. Sheryl Sandberg’s book, Lean In, has lots of references to similar study results, or so I hear. And Vivian Giang got some of you riled up with examples here

2. Another set of folks (all men) invariably point me to studies that suggest there is no pay difference between men and women once you adjust for experience and time on the job. And I hear there are studies saying there is no difference for younger women just entering the workplace.

How can both views be true?

So I declare a link war. 

I appoint myself the judge in this contest. Give me links to studies that support your point of view. I will assess those studies and pick a winner. Or I might declare that the studies are not clear when viewed in total. I will ask any interested parties (including Vivian Giang) to comment on the reliability and usefulness of the studies.

I have no idea how this will turn out. But I think you need to know my starting bias to assess my judging skills.

Keep in mind that the POINT of this is my ignorance. And my bias. I put it on full display for you because I think that is helpful on this issue. If you don’t know what others are thinking, you can not hope to communicate effectively. So as a public service, I present my biased, ignorant, male perspective. But I am open to revising my opinion based on data. Would you ask any more of me?

Here is my starting bias:

1. Gender discrimination in the workplace is a big problem, according to some types of studies and countless first-hand accounts. With so much smoke, I assume there is fire. 

2. The problem of gender discrimination is curiously invisible to men, and that includes me. All I see is a confused ball of incomplete thinking on all sides. But that tells us nothing about how big the problem is. Cognitive dissonance is a reasonable hypothesis for why lots of folks fail to see the obvious. I see no reason to exclude myself from the ranks of the deluded. 

3. My working hypothesis is that studies showing gender bias in controlled tests don’t translate into the workplace as pay differentials — at least in this country — because educated adults are on the alert for gender bias. So we use our reason to compensate for the bias, if for no other reason than to avoid lawsuits. Any time I am involved in hiring, the risk of unintentional bias is always top of mind. And since men have a biological impulse to be successful and powerful to attract quality mates, hiring the right employees (and avoiding lawsuits) is in our best interest. 

4. Some men are bullies and assholes. And most men are assholes at least some of the time. When men are bullies and assholes to each other, we interpret it as exactly that. But if I observe those same bullies and assholes mistreating a woman, I interpret it as sexism. I assume others see it the same way.

5. I have also blogged that I think women should have a few superior rights to men because they handle the vital function of reproduction. In general, society grants extra rights to folks who take on extra responsibility. That’s why cops can speed, soldiers can kill, and so on. One example of extra rights in this context is that I think only women should have a vote on abortion laws. 

Things get thornier when you are talking about a workplace with pregnant women, potentially pregnant women, and moms. Big companies can absorb some extra friction for the larger benefit of society, but small ones do not have that option. If you own a small business, you don’t want to have two of your three employees out on maternity leave at the same time, to pick a worst-case scenario. A rational small business owner will discriminate in that case and hope to get away with it. And a rational victim of discrimination in that case will sue. That part of the story seems clear to everyone. And I have not heard a proposed solution. But if a proposed solution provided superior rights for women without hurting small businesses, I can imagine that working for me.

6. The other day a good friend who works as a massage therapist was describing a time in her past she was a victim of gender discrimination. The story sounded convincing to me. Then I asked if she knew I would not have considered her as my massage therapist if she were a man. 

Cricket noises.

Personally, I have willfully discriminated by gender in my business dealings at least … oh, a hundred times. And every time it was in favor of women, simply because I prefer the energy. I spend way too much time with men because of shared interests. I need balance in my life, so I bend the rules to get it. I have never considered using a male real estate broker, for example. I get the same service from a woman and it is a great break from the dude-centric rest of my life.

My larger point today is that any discussion of gender in the workplace is like two blind people standing on an elephant and arguing whether the elephant is a sandwich or a bar of soap. Both are 100% wrong. That includes me. 

Evolution did not give us brains that can comprehend our reality. All we have is the type of brains that did not get our ancestors killed. So our brains create delusions of reality and we try to force reason onto them. That’s why men and women are looking at the same elephant but one sees a bar of soap and the other sees a sandwich. 

Is it possible to get to a clearer view of this topic? THAT is the interesting part to me. This is in the category of things that cannot be communicated, which is a big interest of mine.

Part of the problem is that anyone dumb enough to engage in this topic becomes a target for the angry villagers with pitchforks. The only reason I can be this reckless is that I already made all the money I will ever need and I feel as if getting some clarity on this topic would be a public good. And seriously, who else would even try to be objective on this topic in public? This is a suicide mission. 

And if you think any of this is good for traffic to my site, you would be wrong. There will be a two-day traffic bump followed by 5% of regular readers swearing off this site for good. That is the usual pattern for a hot topic here.

Ladies and gentlemen, please provide your links and your insights on gender bias and discrimination in the workplace. I will compile them in summary form and give my verdict. 

Long-winded comments will be ignored unless the first sentence or two are awesome.

Let’s do this.

Scott

@scottadamssays

In other news, a start-up called EnChroma figured out how to make glasses that correct color blindness. As a bonus, the glasses also make colors pop for everyone else too. Will spectacles start replacing contacts and laser eye surgery because the color you see with these glasses is so much better? Could happen.

And what about a finger-attached device for the blind that reads aloud what they point to on a page? This is a good year for people with vision problems. 


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High Heels For Men Show Just How Much Gender Expression Has Changed

“Never before have a few inches mattered so much.” The tagline for an upcoming exhibit at the Bata Shoe Museum in Toronto says everything about guys in heels.

Today, of course, high-heeled shoes are synonymous with femininity. Men who want to add a bit of height have to do so with inserts on the DL, and any non-cowboys wandering around with heels visibly higher than normal might get a few judgy looks. But for about 130 years in the 17th and 18th centuries, Western men wore heeled shoes as an expression of power.

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Italian, Ferradini, 1972-1975. Worn by Elton John. Celebrities strutted on stage in outrageous outfits and high glittering heels such as this pair, but more conservative men also paired higher heeled shoes with their suits.

It makes sense if you consider the value placed on height. Tall people, particularly men, are associated with confidence and prestige — we actually tend to pay them higher salaries. So one of the questions Elizabeth Semmelhack, curator of the Bata Shoe Museum in Toronto, poses through the exhibit is not why men wore heels at one point, but why they ever stopped.

“We’re so nervous about the idea of men in heels today,” Semmelhack told The Huffington Post. “Hopefully, what this exhibition will do is highlight for people that what’s really curious about the history of men in heels is our current attitude towards it.”

Semmelhack theorizes that heeled shoes were borrowed from Asia, where they were used for horseback riding, in the early 1600s. Persia had been gaining political influence around that time, and exoticism in dress was a symbol of high status. It wasn’t long before women began wearing heels, too. Semmelhack explained it was (somewhat unsurprisingly) trendy for women to borrow from mens’ closets in the 1600s, and there they found high-heeled shoes. Never before in the history of mankind did everyone’s butts look so fantastic.

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Persian, 17th century.

The heels themselves became gendered, with slender heels for women and blocky ones for men. Then around the middle of the 18th century, men started to abandon them. But there have been exceptions. John Lennon wore boots with heels, followed by plenty of glam rockers. “Elevator shoes” (with height-boosting insoles) provided a discreet option. And somehow the cowboy boot — which is definitely a high heeled shoe for guys — has stuck around as a symbol of rugged masculinity. As we reconsider notions of gender and its role in society, the heel is a prime example of how arbitrary definitions of gender can be.

Feel free to imagine Ron Swanson in any of the shoes below. If you find yourself in Toronto, the exhibition, titled “Standing Tall: The Curious History of Men in Heels,” runs from May 8, 2015, until May 2016.

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English, c. 1690-1710. This sturdy boot from the turn of the 18th century features a high stacked leather heel.

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English, c. 1690-1715. This pair of men’s mules features high flared heels in keeping with turn of the 18th century fashion. The red leather covering the high heels was meant to bring attention to them and also a conveyed a sense of continental sophistication as red heels were famously worn in the court of French King XIV.

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American, Justin Boots, 20th century. The packer boot, like the more iconic pull-on cowboy boot, originated on the frontier and was worn for horseback riding. Evolving from 19th century lace-up boots, packers allowed wearers to customize the fit of the boot. The addition of the low-slung heel enabled the boot to stay stable in the stirrup.

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American, Tony Lama, late 20th century. The cowboy emerged in the West after the Civil War pushing cattle to railheads in the 1860s to 1880s.

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Canadian, designed and made by Master John, 1973. The Toronto shoemaker Master John made these men’s platform boots complete with a five and a half inch high heels, appliquéd stars and veritable landscape in leather.

All photos by Ron Wood / Bata Shoe Museum.

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Gender Fluid Generation: Evolving Gender Norms at School

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Originally published on Youthradio.org, the premier source for youth generated news throughout the globe.

By: Nanette Thompson

The first time I learned that gender could be fluid was in sex ed in the 9th grade. I remember the teacher mumbling under her breath that some people don’t identify their gender with the biological sex they were born with. At the time it didn’t phase me because I’d never known anyone who’d talked about it or felt that way. But now, three years later, I have a 16-year-old classmate who’s trans. His name is Jace McDonald.

“That is the name I have chosen,” said Jace. “It’s what my parents would have named me if I was born biologically male.”

Jace McDonald was born female. But says he always knew there was something different about him. He didn’t like so called girl things, and more than that, he felt like a boy. At 13, he started identifying as transgender, and has become something of an activist.

“Never ask someone who’s trans what their real name is,” he said. “That is so offensive. My real name is Jace. And my birth name is none of your business.”

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Jace McDonald laughs with classmates in his high school drama class. He says it’s one of the places he feels most at ease. “People in general need to have a place where they feel safe and where they can be themselves,” he says. Photo Credit: Teresa Chin/Youth Radio>

Jace has thick glasses and short brown hair, and he’s outspoken at school. One time in English class when a teacher stumbled over gender terminology, Jace stepped in to clarify and ended up teaching a whole lesson himself. He sometimes finds himself fed up. “High school is hard enough as it is,” he said.” High school as someone who is non-gender conforming just makes it harder. How many times today am I going to be called a girl?”

In many ways, it seems like gender non-conformity awareness is at all-time high. Last week Congressman Mike Honda announced via Twitter that he was the “proud grandpa of a transgender grandchild.” And according to new polling out last month, young people increasingly see gender as not just limited to male and female. But the torchbearers of gender fluidity aren’t just celebrities or politicians, but kids. But schools are still catching up with the needs of gender nonconforming students. Last year, California’s first law protecting gender nonconforming students went into effect. It gives Jace the right to use the bathroom of his choice.

Last month, Jace and I walked down the hall of the high school that we both attend. He stopped and pointed to set of doors that are our main bathrooms on campus. He says when he uses the bathroom between classes that kids occasionally give him strange looks.

“So if I walk in there are there are people already in there, I’m more likely to hold it and just go to my next class,” he said.

It seems rough, but Jace says this is way better than he used to have it. He’s a junior now, and this is his first year at my school. He’s gone to two other high schools and left because he was taunted and called names like tranny. He says, the schools didn’t let him use the boy’s bathroom, and insisted on keeping his birth name on the roster. At my school, he says he finally feels safe.

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Third grader Tomás Rocha, 8, in the hallway of his elementary school. Tomás is often asked if he is a boy or a girl. “Sometimes I say, does it really matter?” he says. Photo Credit: Brett Myers/Youth Radio>

Just a few towns away at Malcolm X Elementary School, teachers start addressing gender identity at a young age, with the goal of making school more safe and inclusive. One of the students there, third Grader Tomás Rocha has shoulder length hair and long bangs. He’s wearing a turquoise My Little Pony t-shirt  with black flats. A lot of days he wears dresses, and last year he started using the girls bathroom. Tomás says people regularly ask him if he’s a boy or a girl.

“I just really think i’m really both,” said Tomás. “I really don’t care what people call me . Sometimes I say I’m a girl. Sometimes I say I’m a boy. Sometimes I say does it really matter?”

However, it mattered to his mom Amy. She struggled with Tomás’s gender bending. And at first hoped it was a phase. “His first grade teacher told me that, ‘Yeah I don’t know if this is a phase,'” she said. “And so that scared me because I wanted it to be a phase, because I didn’t want to have to have my child hurt. I wanted him to be what society wants a baby boy to be like when they’re born. You know, tough and want to play sports.

Her concerns came from her fear of Tomás  might get bullied.It’s something Tomás’s teacher Julia Beers also thinks about. Beers was Tomás’ second grade teacher last year — the first year he started wearing dresses to school. When students question Tomás, Beers tries to assume the best — that her students are curious and not trying to be mean. Like when she overhears a student say to Tomás, “Did you know you were wearing a dress to school today?”

“If a student is laughing for example, I might say,  ‘Hmm what are you thinking when you laugh like that?'” she said. “And by opening up that question, it can often help that student kinda dig deeper and realize ‘It just seems weird’ or ‘I feel uncomfortable’ or ‘I’ve just never seen someone do that before.'”

According to the Gay Lesbian Straight Education Network, 82 percent of transgender young people say they don’t feel safe at school.  Struggles, like the ones my high school classmate Jace has been through, are the norm.

For Tomás though, his elementary school’s efforts seem to be working. His mom says his grades and behavior improved after he was given more freedom to be himself.

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Tomboy Recalls Being Taken to Gap to ‘Fix’ Their Gender (VIDEO)

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I’m From Driftwood is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit archive for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer stories. New stories are posted on the site every Wednesday.

Renee was a tomboy as long as they can remember. When Renee was a teenager, they were part of an all-girls youth group, and they were asked to represent the group at a pageant weekend. Part of that involved wearing a gown. Renee recalls:

[M]y 15-year-old self decided that to wear this formal gown, I was going to wear it with a fedora and a tie and elbow-length gloves. It was my way of asserting some kind of gender mixing, like, “If I have to wear this formal gown, this is what I’m going to do, and this is how I’m going to do it, as me!”

Renee felt comfortable in the gender-mixed attire, but the mom of one of the other students did not. In an attempt to “fix” Renee’s gender, the mom took Renee to Gap to buy them some pants for girls:

I found some tight, flare-leg jeans, like, “Fine,” and we left. I think she really did want to do right by me, but all I could remember in that moment was my ears getting hot, and my stomach was in my throat, and I just wanted to cry. That moment was the first time I was really consciously aware of someone actively policing my gender. And this little tomboy kind of felt like they needed to go back in the closet.

Renee found their footing in college by getting more involved with the LGBTQ community and learning that some people identify with the pronouns “they,” “them,” and “their,” which Renee does now. Ultimately, they say, it’s about doing what makes you happy:

It’s really hard to tease apart what you genuinely enjoy versus what everyone else is telling you that you want. If it makes you happy, if it makes your heart warm and fuzzy, if it’s what you genuinely enjoy, if you want to wear a bowtie and paint your nails, do it. If it’s not hurting anyone, if it makes you feel good, if it makes you feel beautiful, then feel beautiful.

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Fuck Gender! Why it’s Not About Genitalia.

This video can help you gain or provide others with a better understanding of transgender and queer identities and issues. Formerly the world’s highest ranking female marital artist, MacDaddy shares his personal stories, along with the latest science and research about gender. He discusses what makes a man a man, a woman a woman, and what is gender queer. About MacDaddyMac is Co-Chair of Seattle’s LGBT Commission, sits on the LGBTQ Advisory Council for the Seattle Police Department, is a board member for Seattle Counseling Services and is proud to be a voice for the transgendered community. He is a member of the Seattle Men’s Chorus and an intervention counselor for Safe Schools Coalition. Mac speaks on gender & sexuality & Kink panels, is an educator and activist on gender, sexuality, kink and LGBTQ rights. Before transition Mac was the highest ranking female martial artist in the world and has always worked to further women’s rights. Mac is a world champion martial artist and former U.S. Karate team member. Mac has coached 58 national champions and 29 Junior Olympic champions. He is one of the highest ranking martial artists in the world and is a certified defensive tactics instructor for law enforcement professionals. He has appeared on Ripley’s Believe it or Not, The Discovery Channel, The Learning Channel, and has been featured in People magazine.
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In this weekly feature, InStyle’s Fashion News Director Eric Wilson shares his favorite fashion moment of the week, and explains how it could shape styles to come. Look for it on What’s Right Now every Friday. The Moment: Strange things have been happening across the pond this week as European designers present their fall men’s wear collections, and […]
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Fuck Gender! Why it’s Not About Genitalia.

This video can help you gain or provide others with a better understanding of transgender and queer identities and issues. Formerly the world’s highest ranking female marital artist, MacDaddy shares his personal stories, along with the latest science and research about gender. He discusses what makes a man a man, a woman a woman, and what is gender queer. About MacDaddyMac is Co-Chair of Seattle’s LGBT Commission, sits on the LGBTQ Advisory Council for the Seattle Police Department, is a board member for Seattle Counseling Services and is proud to be a voice for the transgendered community. He is a member of the Seattle Men’s Chorus and an intervention counselor for Safe Schools Coalition. Mac speaks on gender & sexuality & Kink panels, is an educator and activist on gender, sexuality, kink and LGBTQ rights. Before transition Mac was the highest ranking female martial artist in the world and has always worked to further women’s rights. Mac is a world champion martial artist and former U.S. Karate team member. Mac has coached 58 national champions and 29 Junior Olympic champions. He is one of the highest ranking martial artists in the world and is a certified defensive tactics instructor for law enforcement professionals. He has appeared on Ripley’s Believe it or Not, The Discovery Channel, The Learning Channel, and has been featured in People magazine.
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Fuck Gender! Why it’s Not About Genitalia.

This video can help you gain or provide others with a better understanding of transgender and queer identities and issues. Formerly the world’s highest ranking female marital artist, MacDaddy shares his personal stories, along with the latest science and research about gender. He discusses what makes a man a man, a woman a woman, and what is gender queer. About MacDaddyMac is Co-Chair of Seattle’s LGBT Commission, sits on the LGBTQ Advisory Council for the Seattle Police Department, is a board member for Seattle Counseling Services and is proud to be a voice for the transgendered community. He is a member of the Seattle Men’s Chorus and an intervention counselor for Safe Schools Coalition. Mac speaks on gender & sexuality & Kink panels, is an educator and activist on gender, sexuality, kink and LGBTQ rights. Before transition Mac was the highest ranking female martial artist in the world and has always worked to further women’s rights. Mac is a world champion martial artist and former U.S. Karate team member. Mac has coached 58 national champions and 29 Junior Olympic champions. He is one of the highest ranking martial artists in the world and is a certified defensive tactics instructor for law enforcement professionals. He has appeared on Ripley’s Believe it or Not, The Discovery Channel, The Learning Channel, and has been featured in People magazine.
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Fuck Gender! Why it’s Not About Genitalia.

This video can help you gain or provide others with a better understanding of transgender and queer identities and issues. Formerly the world’s highest ranking female marital artist, MacDaddy shares his personal stories, along with the latest science and research about gender. He discusses what makes a man a man, a woman a woman, and what is gender queer. About MacDaddyMac is Co-Chair of Seattle’s LGBT Commission, sits on the LGBTQ Advisory Council for the Seattle Police Department, is a board member for Seattle Counseling Services and is proud to be a voice for the transgendered community. He is a member of the Seattle Men’s Chorus and an intervention counselor for Safe Schools Coalition. Mac speaks on gender & sexuality & Kink panels, is an educator and activist on gender, sexuality, kink and LGBTQ rights. Before transition Mac was the highest ranking female martial artist in the world and has always worked to further women’s rights. Mac is a world champion martial artist and former U.S. Karate team member. Mac has coached 58 national champions and 29 Junior Olympic champions. He is one of the highest ranking martial artists in the world and is a certified defensive tactics instructor for law enforcement professionals. He has appeared on Ripley’s Believe it or Not, The Discovery Channel, The Learning Channel, and has been featured in People magazine.
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