19 Black Families Buy 90-Plus Acres in Georgia to Start Safe Community

More than a dozen Black families came together for a common cause in Georgia — snatching up a bunch of land to start their own community, which they hope will be a safe haven. The nearly 97 acres of unincorporated land recently purchased near the…

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Hollywood seeks health consultants to keep sets safe

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Bret Michaels Will Play ‘Socially Distant’ Concerts If They Are Safe

Bret Michaels ain’t looking for nothing but a good time at a socially distant concert or ball game … he’s willing to strike a balance and compromise, as long as it’s safe. The Poison lead singer tells us he’s seen clips from the first “socially…

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LaMelo Ball Gets Haircut From Barber In Hazmat Suit, We Had To Be Safe!

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Playing it Safe – Lisa B. Kamps

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Playing it Safe

Lisa B. Kamps

Genre: Fiction & Literature

Publish Date: February 21, 2018

Publisher: BimHaven Press

Seller: Draft2Digital, LLC


Winner of the Reader's Choice Award for BEST SPORTS ROMANCE! Will this single dad grab a second chance at love when it's offered…or will he play it safe and let it slip away? Aaron Malone knows one thing: hockey. It's been his calling and his salvation, seeing him through life's challenges–from a marriage that should have never happened and a divorce that left him gutted, to the loss of his two daughters when his ex-wife moved out of state. When a tragic accident forces him back into the role of fatherhood, he struggles to be the father his daughters need–even if he's not the parent they want. Savannah Weber has everything she wants in life: a successful career, an energetic social life, and a sexy, brooding neighbor who has a recurring part in her nighttime fantasies. What she's never had is a family of her own–and she's convinced herself she doesn't want one. When she sees Aaron struggling to balance life with his daughters, she finds herself being drawn in to help–against the wishes of the two young girls. They say that two is company and three is a crowd. Can these four come together to make a family and live happily-ever-after? Only if two lonely souls are willing to take a chance instead of playing it safe.

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The Best (and Most Innovative) Razors for a Close, Safe Shave

We preach about good grooming regimens all the time: Hair care, skincare, beard trimming, sun protection, and the like. While we hope you take our advice across the board, there is perhaps no area more important than shaving. That’s because there are so many variables—namely a very sharp blade or five—being dragged across your skin. The chances for injury, irritation, infection, and ingrowns is steep, and they all center on how steady and slow you take it, as well as how good your razor is. Allow us to introduce you to seven of the very best razors on the market for your face, head, and body alike. Some are heated and electric while others are disposable-but-high-tech. Ultimately, they’re all going to help give you a close, smooth shave, minus the pain. (Just make sure you follow the other shaving steps closely, too.)


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GilletteLabs Heated Razor

Maybe it’s a shock to start this roster with a $ 200 razor. But hear us out: GilletteLabs sought to mimic the timeless barbershop tradition of the hot-towel shave, and they have succeeded handsomely with this heated razor. The heated bar on the razor’s head keeps pores open as you shave, while simultaneously heating your mug and warming your spirits. This is lavish, yes, but it makes your shaving regimen quite enjoyable, and even forces you to slow down and appreciate the experience.

[$ 200; gillette.com]

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Supply Single-edge Safety Razor

Supply recently went head to head with the Sharks of Shark Tank and found themselves with a deal: Their single-blade, perfectly weighted razors take the guesswork out of safety-razor shaving. Like any other safety razors, they are ideal for anyone who is prone to bumps and ingrown hairs, or who has too-sensitive skin for a five-blade pass. However, because of their perfect and customizable design (with three options for blade exposure, as well as a fast-loading head), they also make safety-blade shaving easier and far less daunting for the rest of us.

[$ 75; supply.co]

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HeadBlade Moto Head-shaving Razor

Godspeed to anyone who wants to shave his head with a standard-fare razor or safety blade. You should use something ergo-friendly, and designed for the spherical task, rather than the same device you use on the contours of your cheek and jaw. HeadBlade is exactly that, and in turn, it always works exceptionally for your face and body, too. It expedites the process—not that you need to go fast, but it certainly spares you from taking 20 minutes too long on the rear of your head. And at $ 12, there’s no reason you shouldn’t say yes. (Though the limited-edition, $ 75 gold-plated and polished GoldFinger Moto is a worthy gift to any bald man in your life.)

[$ 12; headblade.com]

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Harry’s Truman Razor Set

Ever since it leapt ahead in the subscription-shaving game, Harry’s has been the brand to watch. For just $ 15, you can get your starter Truman kit—the foundational razor with its weighted, rubber-grip razor and those German-engineered 5-blade cartridges (with the ability to receive replacement blades routinely by mail). Plus, the brand is constantly partnering with others to issue limited-release colors and designs. If you don’t fancy the orange, blue, or green standard picks (though they’re all sharp, in our opinion), just wait a month or two and you might score something one-off and fabulous.

[$ 15; harrys.com]

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BIC 5-Blade Disposable Razor With 6 Cartridges

There’s no need to buy cheap, flimsy, disposable razors when BIC is out here making 5-head, flexible-blade, aloe-enhanced, ergo-grip razors. We question the notion that you even need to dispose of the razor as you cycle through its cartridges, since it could compete in efficacy against some of the best “non-disposable” razors.

[$ 16; amazon.com]

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Parker Semi-Slant Safety Razor

By angling and slanting its safety-blade razor heads, Parker guarantees a safe, smooth shave. They’re double-edge razors with less blade exposure, thus less worry for wear on your precious skin. A little pressure goes a long way with these chrome-finished, brass-framed baddies.

[$ 30; supersafetyrazors.com]

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Philips Norelco electric shaver + trimmer + detailer

Makers of some of the best beard and body trimmers around, Philips Norelco also leads shaving innovation with this hybrid shaver + trimmer + detailer. You can get a close shave (not all the way to the skin, which some guys prefer; it’s a barely-there scruff), as well as the ease of cleaning up your cheek lines, neckline, and even your body hair. The device is rechargeable and shaves wet or dry, if you prefer an in-shower cleanup.

[$ 35; philips.com]

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Angelina Jolie Recalls Not Feeling ”Safe” and ”Free” in Recent Years

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Poo Bear’s Home Burglary Caught on Video, Thief Struggled With Safe

The burglars who made off with $ 1 million worth of jewelry at Poo Bear’s pad had a hiccup during the heist … because the hitmaker’s safe was too damn heavy to simply carry away. TMZ has obtained this surveillance video from Poo Bear’s security…

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Tekashi 6ix9ine Safe from Death in Jail Unit with Other Snitches

Tekashi 6ix9ine has an even bigger target on his head than ever, now that the U.S. Attorney has just made public exactly how the rapper will help them bring alleged violent gang members down … yet we’ve learned his security behind bars isn’t…

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This Is Not a Safe Place – Ride

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This Is Not a Safe Place

Ride

Genre: Alternative

Price: $ 9.99

Release Date: August 16, 2019

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Safe – Boaz Yakin

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Safe

Boaz Yakin

Genre: Action & Adventure

Price: $ 4.99

Rental Price: $ 3.99

Release Date: April 27, 2012


When a second-rate cage fighter, Luke Wright, is tormented by the Russian Mafia and wanders the streets of New York, he witnesses a young Chinese girl Mei, being pursued by the same mafia who want her for a priceless numerical code that they would kill for.

© © 2011 Safe Productions, LLC. All Rights Reserved

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Rating every NFL coach’s job security: Who’s safe, who’s not

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How to Do Bodily Fluid Play the Safe Way

You may think of bodily fluids as simple byproducts of sex but to those with bodily fluid fetishes, they’re much more than that. Whether or not this kind of play piques your interest, if you’re in the pleasure products industry, it’s important to know the ins-and-outs of this kind of play — including how to enjoy it safely.
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Mark Wahlberg, Josh Duhamel and WWE superstar Roman Reigns don’t have to worry about a DEA probe into their alleged ties to a steroid dealer … because the law is on their side. Law enforcement sources tell TMZ … the 3 celebs — who were named in a…

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Jennifer Hudson Satisfied Son Is Safe Now that David Otunga’s Out of Her House

Jennifer Hudson agreed to let David Otunga see their son again, but only because he’s out of her house and no longer a physical threat to her … according to sources connected to the singer. The sources say Jennifer dropped the restraining order keeping…

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Safe House – Daniel Espinosa

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Safe House

Daniel Espinosa

Genre: Action & Adventure

Price: $ 9.99

Rental Price: $ 2.99

Release Date: February 7, 2012


Tobin Frost (Oscar® winner Denzel Washington), one of the CIA’s brilliant officers turned dangerous traitor, stuns the intelligence community when he resurfaces in South Africa. While being interrogated in a safe house, brutal mercenaries attack, forcing rookie Matt Weston (Ryan Reynolds) to take the infamous Frost on the run. As the masterful manipulator toys with his reluctant protégé, shaking the young operative’s morality and idealism, the two unlikely allies must fight together to uncover who wants them both dead. Packed with intense action and thrilling suspense, Safe House takes you on a deadly ride through a covert world where no one and no place is ever safe.

© © 2012 Universal Studios. All Rights Reserved.

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Safe House – Daniel Espinosa

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Safe House

Daniel Espinosa

Genre: Action & Adventure

Price: $ 9.99

Rental Price: $ 2.99

Release Date: February 7, 2012


Tobin Frost (Oscar® winner Denzel Washington), one of the CIA’s brilliant officers turned dangerous traitor, stuns the intelligence community when he resurfaces in South Africa. While being interrogated in a safe house, brutal mercenaries attack, forcing rookie Matt Weston (Ryan Reynolds) to take the infamous Frost on the run. As the masterful manipulator toys with his reluctant protégé, shaking the young operative’s morality and idealism, the two unlikely allies must fight together to uncover who wants them both dead. Packed with intense action and thrilling suspense, Safe House takes you on a deadly ride through a covert world where no one and no place is ever safe.

© © 2012 Universal Studios. All Rights Reserved.

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9 Ways To Keep Your Kids Safe On Halloween

Dressing up and trick-or-treating make Halloween an exciting night for many kids, so to ensure the fun lasts all night, consider these nine safety tips from The Doctors before you head out the door. 

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Saving Grace (Safe Havens 1) – Sandy James

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Saving Grace (Safe Havens 1)

Safe Havens, no. 1

Sandy James

Genre: Historical

Publish Date: June 1, 2013

Publisher: Sandy James

Seller: Smashwords


Grace Riley is on the run—from her past and from her fears. The victim of a violent rape at the hands of a rich politician’s son, she must “disappear” to escape his constant attempts to recapture her. Moving from cattle drive to cattle drive as a cook, she avoids her tormentor for nearly twenty years. When she discovers that the brother she gave up for adoption after their mother died in childbirth was orphaned at an early age, she is frantic to verify that he’s safe. She tracks him to a cattle ranch in Montana. Widower Adam Morgan owns the Twin Springs ranch, but finds himself falling into a life of loneliness. Although he enjoys spending time with his grown daughter and the two men he rescued when they were living on the streets, he longs to meet a woman he can love. Living in the Montana territory where men greatly outnumber women makes finding a new wife difficult. Weary of working cattle, he is ready to make some changes in his life. Grace falls ill on her journey, but she manages to make it to the Twin Springs ranch where her brother is supposed to be living. Adam takes her in, concerned for her health and the reason she’s searching for one of his adopted sons. Their chemistry is immediate and intense, but can Grace heal from her past of pain and fear? When her secrets are finally revealed, can Adam forgive her deceptions and learn to love again? **Contains love scenes and adult language

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News in Brief: Neighborhood Starting To Get Too Safe For Family To Afford

CHICAGO—Explaining that the sense of unease she felt walking to and from her home had declined markedly over the years, Humboldt Park resident Kirsten Healy expressed her disappointment to reporters Thursday that her neighborhood was becoming too safe for her family to afford. “When we first moved in seven years ago, we didn’t even feel like we could leave the house after dark, which was great for a family on a limited budget,” said Healy, who noted that, given how little she lies awake these days worrying about a potential home invasion or assault, she can tell her family will soon be priced out of their apartment. “The way things are going, we won’t even feel unsafe walking the few blocks to the grocery store in a year or two—I just don’t think we have the kind of money for that. We’d love to …




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American Voices: Russian Police Advocate ‘Safe Selfies’

Following a number of fatal accidents, Russia’s police force released a brochure urging citizens to take precautions while photographing themselves to avoid injury or death, warning against posing with animals and on rooftops. What do you think?



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Giant Penis Sprays Confetti To Promote Safe Sex … Come Again?

When a man in a giant penis costume ejaculates confetti on people, you pay attention.

But are you thinking about practicing safe sex?

That’s the dilemma facing a wacky PSA in Norway to combat the increase in STDs there. “Penis can surprise you,” says the tagline in Norwegian.

The PSA was produced for Norway by the Swedish Association for Sexuality Education (RFSU).

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A spokesperson for the Involve! ad agency behind the spot told the Mirror the commercial is intended to highlight the fun and naughtiness of sex, though admittedly many over 30 “thought the campaign was pointless and some went so far as to brand it banal and idiotic.”

Silly as it is, the video aims its use-a-condom message at 16- to 25-year-olds, the Telegraph reported. “This is a group that is not swayed by lecturing, facts or scaremongering,” RFSU’s Christina Placht said.

The guy wearing the getup, 19-year-old student Philip van Eck, reportedly told a Norwegian outlet that he’s happy to do his part: “I thought it was hilarious. If I can help others, just by being a dick, there is nothing better.”

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Safe at Last: A Slow Burn Novel (Unabridged) – Maya Banks

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Safe at Last: A Slow Burn Novel (Unabridged)

Maya Banks

Genre: Romance

Price: $ 21.95

Publish Date: June 23, 2015

© ℗ © 2015 Harper Audio

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Safe Haven – Angela White

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Safe Haven

Life After War, no. 3

Angela White

Genre: Fantasy

Publish Date: March 19, 2012

Publisher: Cloud 9 Publications

Seller: Smashwords


Is their Haven actually Safe? Safe Haven: A place of safety and of light, of duty and honor: A Refuge for survivors. Also: A place of death and darkness, where magic and murder go hand in hand. Reunited Angie and Marc have made it to Safe Haven and Kenn is already on the edge of murder. Will Adrian be able to stop the bloodshed or will everything he’s built start to fall? Can he keep the enemy at bay long enough to teach his people how to be survivors of this new apocalyptic world? After months of carrying the burdens alone, Adrian finally has the help he needs. Five of the six have come and he can’t wait to get things started. With Angie’s magic and his people skills, he is about to rebuild an entire country… If he can keep them out of the Slaver’s path long enough to get these special survivors to bond. If they won’t work together, everyone is doomed. “Ready to go? This way to Safe Haven, Slaver attacks, and the Supernatural…”

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Safe and Sound – Single
Oleta Adams

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Lana Del Rey — Fans Scared Me Off … I’m Moving to a Malibu Safe House

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Infographic: Keeping Your Possessions Safe While Traveling

Traveling during the summer can be fun and exhilarating, but nothing ruins a trip like getting your possessions stolen. Whether you’re hiking, road-tripping, or relaxing at a resort, here are some tips for making sure your items are safe during your travels:

  • Before traveling to an unfamiliar country, always conduct background checks on each of their citizens
  • When visiting museums, beware that many works of art were hung by pickpockets to distract you while they steal your wallet
  • Only travel with the chalices you absolutely need, and leave the rest at home
  • Never let your hotel room out of your sight
  • Bury your valuables deep within your backpack to ensure you hold up every line and immediately identify yourself as a tourist
  • Max out your credit cards with expensive purchases so criminals can’t use them
  • Be able to tell the difference between a pickpocket and a harmless frotteur …





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Safe Haven – Nicholas Sparks

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Safe Haven

Nicholas Sparks

Genre: Romance

Price: $ 11.95

Publish Date: September 14, 2010

© ℗ © 2010 Hachette Audio

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Safe Haven (Unabridged) – Nicholas Sparks

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Safe Haven (Unabridged)

Nicholas Sparks

Genre: Romance

Price: $ 19.95

Publish Date: September 14, 2010

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Battle Damage – 50-pound Safe Folds iPhone in Half

We stack up four popular iPhone cases, including the OtterBox Defender, the Lunatik TAKTIK Extreme, the Griffin Survivor + Catalyst (note: corrected), and the Lifeproof Fre to see which design will actually keep your smartphone safe.
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Lil Mama’s ‘Sausage’ Is All About Safe Sex

Hey, Lil Mama!

The rapper and former “America’s Best Dance Crew” judge is back with a video for “Sausage,” and she’s not talking about breakfast. In fact, the 25-year-old, who played Lisa “Left Eye” Lopes in the VH1 biopic “CrazySexyCool: The TLC Story,” is all about safe sex on the new track: “You better use a condom if you taking that sausage.”

In addition to her lyrics being educationally sound, the video is giving us full-on 90s vibes with some great dance sequences and a reference to Mary J. Blige’s “Not Gon’ Cry” video:

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Leaving My Safe House

Divorce. This is the last place in the world I thought I would be moving towards at the age of 52. Yet, at the same time this was a very conscious choice for me. It was a decision that was years in the making and turned over and over in my mind and heart. There are days I find myself in a place of anticipation, fear, joy and sometimes uncertainty. Well, oftentimes a lot of uncertainty.

I married young, certain that this man, my rock, and this marriage would rescue me from my chaotic family life. I would raise children with love and safety. For me, our unconscious agreement was that we would create a cocoon where the four of us would be safe. But as can happen, eventually the cocoon became restrictive and suffocating.

It has been thirty years. I grew up in this marriage. Birthed two beautiful children. Found my calling. But at some point when we grow and change as individuals, love has to expand and transform as well. Couples need to create new reasons to recommit and to love. That didn’t happen for us and as life does sometimes, things didn’t go as we had initially planned.

At some point I knew I had to leave my “safe house of identity”. In her book Talk to Me, Anna Deavere Smith says that when we leave these safe houses, we end up in the “crossroads of ambiguity”. She goes on to say that “on the one hand, they are not comfortable places. On the other hand, in them one acquires the freedom to move” (p. 24). And that movement was what my soul was aching for. To stretch. To expand. To take up space.

I have learned that with the call to be free of something as defining as a 30-year marriage there also comes some degree of messy. Although the decision to leave a marriage has lead me to a more authentic life, there can also be a surprising amount of ambiguous-looking feelings that go along with it before I feel as if I have truly arrived on the other side.

Given I am usually one who relishes the thought of deep and sometimes messy work, truthfully, I don’t always embrace the degree of honesty this leave taking continually invites me to experience or the uncertainty that it gives rise to. So, as I move through this time with its challenges and with its gifts, I have found it helpful to call upon some pretty basic reminders.

1. Wait. Resist the urge to fix and plan. When we feel uncomfortable and think things are stalled or not moving fast enough, it can be easy to distract ourselves with planning the next adventure, relationship, whatever. Examine your impulse to jump into something new. Is it a distraction? Will it be worthwhile? Or do you just need to wait out the change and give things time to manifest? I love Kate Northrup’s post on how to be with waiting.

2. Be still. While you wait, breathe, pray, meditate. Find a refuge. Do it all or in some combination. Slow things down, way down. Give yourself time to integrate the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual changes.

3. Play. Lots of it and I mean LOTS!! For many of us this is new and sometimes scary concept to hang out with. Play exercises parts of our brains and hearts in ways we may have forgotten. Play, according to Stuart Brown, even makes us smarter. I took up softball since starting my new life. Not the competitive kind, more like the “you rock no matter how many times you missed my pitch” kind of softball. I love it.

4. Laugh. Lots of this, too. Laugh with others and especially when you’re alone. I like nothing more than finding that one youtube video that gets me going. No one is in the room with me. I’m laughing my head off. Before I know it I’m cry/laughing at the fact that I’m laughing so hard all by myself.

5. Shift gears. It’s so easy to get stuck in fear or self-doubt. Sometimes understanding that you are in a pattern of old feelings can help. And sometimes you need to chop wood, carry water, as I like to say. Make your bed and do the dishes. Clean the toilet. When you’re not sure what to do, organize the silverware drawer. Better yet, turn on music and dance. It won’t fix everything but it can give your body and mind space to breathe and interrupt that stuck brain loop.

6. Trust. Not so easy? Yeah, I understand. Our culture and family systems can be great at feeding the cycle of fear. You’re birthing a life. Finding the trust in yourself that you can do this goes a long way. You’ll have up and down days with this. Ride the waves.

7. Ask for help. Friends, lovers, professionals. Leaving the confines of what has always felt safe requires love and care. It calls for a circle or tribe that is uniquely yours. You don’t need a lot but make sure they are people that get you most of the time. The ones that you can trust to be brave when you are finding it tough. And the ones who challenge you to love yourself when you think there is nothing in there to love.

I will arrive on the other side of this. I know this to be true because after all my years I have had the honor of more than a few life challenges. I will keep walking as I did before. I will rest when I need to because I understand the value of stillness when it gets to be too much. I remind myself that of this when I feel like I’m in the eye of the storm. And it will pass. It always does. But the other truth is that I will not be the same person on the other side and that is both scary and fucking amazing. I can’t wait.

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As anyone criticized by Black Twitter can tell you, the cultural phenomenon is one hell of a force to reckon with.

Because of it, the Twittersphere sees constant conversation surrounding the Black experience and highlights issues often overlooked, and sometimes created by, mainstream media. Alongside this, explosive hashtags are also birthed calling out people, publications and general status quo. Just ask Marie-Claire, Vogue Magazine and the Associated Press.

But just because Black Twitter goes after offensive slip ups made by white people, doesn’t mean black people are exempt from the same fury.

In the spirit of true equality, no one is safe from Black Twitter — and the proof of it lies in two recent hashtags.

In their coverage of the finding of black man Otis Byrd hanging from a tree in Mississippi last week, CNN laid emphasis on the man’s criminal record. Relevant or not, Black Twitter didn’t take nicely to said focus when so few details about the surrounding circumstances were available to contextualize his life and death. Thus, #CNNBeLike was born.

Likewise, recent controversial remarks on racism from black celebrities such as Common, Kanye and Raven-Symone have of late stirred a relatively similar response from Black Twitter. And boy did the #BlackCelebsBeLike sarcasm sting every bit as bad as it’s precursor.

You can hate Black Twitter all you want — or commend it for its brutal honesty — but you have to admit they don’t play favorites.

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Given the option to learn about sex ed from an anatomically correct diagram, or a sizzling dress, most would likely choose the latter –- which is why one Brazilian artist’s advocacy work is taking off.

Since the ’90s, Adriana Bertini, of Sao Paulo, has been configuring defective condoms into art and designer threads in order to raise awareness for HIV and AIDS, and to promote safe sex. Her name is making waves again now since she had a hot yellow number on display at the 20th International AIDS Conference in Melbourne, which ended on Friday, BuzzFeed reported.

The conference — which had such leaders as Bill Clinton and UNAIDS Executive Director Michel Sidibé in attendance –- presented new scientific knowledge and opportunities for dialogue throughout the six-day event.

While Bertini is constantly developing new ways to bring condoms into the limelight, her message has remained constant.

“By using the very material at the center of effort to prevent HIV/AIDS to create something new, she can inspire reflection, foster discussion and challenge taboos,” Bertini’s Facebook page reads.

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Brazilian artist Adriana Bertini puts the finishing touches to a dress she designed using an estimated 5,000 condoms in Barcelona, Monday July 8, 2002. Bertini is exhibiting her dresses made from condoms to coincide the the XIV International AIDS Conference in Barcelona. (AP Photo/Denis Doyle)

She hopes that when a woman dons a bikini made entirely out of condoms, or when a guest sees her host’s seat cushion is also made out of the same unexpected material, that such moments will inspire a deeper dialogue about AIDS awareness and having protected sex.

Bertini says that two questions define her mission: What is HIV/AIDS prevention in the first place? How can we create more effective safe-sex campaigns?

To help get more people involved in her project, Condom Couture, Bertini hosts workshops in which participants make their own condom art and talk about the roles they play in sex, according to Buzzfeed.

In addition to her workshops and designing couture items, the artvist (that’s what you get when you combine artist and activist), has also used condoms to pay homage to leaders who have made a lasting difference, including Bono and Nelson Mandela, and to honor those who have succumbed to the disease, according to her Facebook page.

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Her ultimate goal is offer up a “new form of thinking in the people in order that they become aware of the reality in situations of risk in the face of HIV,” she wrote on her page. “How can we alert people against the danger of pleasure without advocating self-denial, which we know is impossible?”

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